Divorce and Your Children
Children - Does Family Matter?
Do you hate divorce so passionately for what it does to the children? I do.
I cannot imagine deeper abuse of one’s children or one’s spouse than to shred the family for selfish reasons.
But, what can we do about it? Should we surrender to the demon of discouragement, laziness, and cowardice, or should we keep the faith and carry ourselves honorably through the trials and tribulations of injustice brought upon us and our families?
What are we Going to do About Divorce?
If we don’t want our children to suffer injustice in their marriages later in life, then we need to take a stand against unilateral no-fault divorce now.
But, how? So far, we’ve protested, ranted, begged and pleaded for others to get involved until we became discouraged and gave up. And so, in all likelihood we will continue down this futile path another 40 years unless we change what we’re doing. And to do that, we have to change our perspective and our attitude and believe that even if we cannot see a clear path to make a difference, that doesn’t mean such a path does not exist. And I’ll prove it right here and right now.
Sincerity Marriage
I started up a website called Sincerity Marriage. What is it?
Well, if you’re going through a divorce or are already divorced, it may seem the wrong time to visit that site. And that may be true. I know when I was going through my divorce many years ago, there were books I could read and others I had to set aside until later because they were too painful to read at that time.
My goal in creating Sincerity Marriage was to find a way to use prenuptials and postnuptials to save marriages rather than protect ownership of assets for someone who may want to end the marriage illegitimately. After all, if marriage is about becoming one and if marriage is to be a covenant for life, and if two people are sincerely in love, why wouldn’t they be willing to be responsible for keeping their wedding vows and sheltering the family from any harm or injustice that would come about from adultery or abuse?
Suppose you made this promise to your spouse and decided to go into an affair and end your marriage. Since you signed the papers, your spouse would bring that covenant into the court and say to the judge, “Here is the marriage agreement we signed. You can see here where my spouse promised to take responsibility for the losses caused by breaking the marriage through adultery or abuse.
What would you say to the judge? You couldn’t deny having made that agreement. It has your signature on it. Suppose you wanted to claim primary custody of the children, but you agreed to surrender that. And the house. And the property. And pay child support. You basically promised not to violate your family’s right to live together in love enjoying the shared family assets.
Suppose, now the shoe were on the other foot. Your spouse has gone into an affair with someone else and now they want to strip you of your children, your home, your property, and make you pay child support and taxes on your losses that involve your home and your retirement account.
Now, it’s your turn. You pull out the agreement and show the judge where your spouse agreed not to deprive you or your children of your home, your property, your right to primary custody, and suddenly it seemed your spouse and the other lover would have to pay child support to you. How would you feel? Relieved rather than tormented?
Suppose you were a soldier in the military and you just returned to find your spouse in bed with someone else. Would you rather have your country defend you and your family rights and property rights or would you rather have your country reward you by waylaying you and taking your children, your home, and all from you?
Something to think about, isn’t it?
Sincere people make sincere promises of sincere love and they have the courage and integrity to be willing to back up those promises in writing and take responsibility.
What the Authorities Will Do About Divorce
The only ones who benefit are the family court attorneys, the unfaithful, the mediators, judges, and family court psychological evaluators who get wealthy shredding the families of children for profit and waylaying the faithful widows and widowers of divorce with extortion and prostitution of justice in our American family courts and child support courts.
I know there are many honorable, caring, and sincere people who work with the courts and who truly do their best, but because of unilateral no-fault divorce and because of the way child support laws are constructed, the faithful are robbed to pay for the sins of the unfaithful.
Who Will Fight the Injustice?
Some said all that is required for evil to prevail is for good men and women to do nothing. But, how can good men and women do nothing?
What have you done to stop this atrocity from hitting you and your family or others?
What are you doing now?
What will you do? If the past is an indication of what you will really do, would you choose right now to be a part of the solution or a part of the problem? What is your choice?
What are you going to do? Tell others maybe? Push this out to twitter or facebook? That can help. Anything helps. What we need to stop doing is “nothing”. We need to stop doing “nothing”. If we can get over that thing alone, then we can solve this problem.
But you have to choose this day.
These words are not meant to be quaint, nice things to hear for the purpose of finding something to nod one’s head to. Families are being shredded right now. Today perhaps another 3,000 in America alone. Don’t think the problem is so formidable it cannot be solved. The solution is to stop doing “nothing” Will you do that today?
I’m Sorry to be so Pushy
But I don’t want your children to be shredded in family court the way our family was. I’ve seen this happen to much.
Please seek God’s protection and blessing on your family and on others and show Him you mean it by your willingness to be used by God to do something.
Today, please?
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